Thoughts for Those Who Grieve At Christmas

Posted by on December 15, 2017 in Shirley's Blog | 2 comments

Church of the Nativity, Bethlehem

 

Perhaps your grief is new and you don’t know how you’ll get through this holiday season….

This week I’m writing especially to someone who is grieving the loss in death of a loved one. Perhaps your grief is new and you don’t know how you’ll get through this holiday season without that person–a parent, a sibling, a spouse, a child, a friend. Truly no one person can be replaced–but we can replace that sorrow and loss with comforting memories–it takes time and work. Both are necessary.

 

Why are people so happy when I’m so sad?

 

I understand your grief, for I’ve been there too. I remember wondering why the people around me were so happy when I was so sad. Didn’t they know my world was turned upside down? My first major loss was near Christmas time fifty years ago now. My best friend was in a car accident and was killed instantly. I was shocked when my mother told me the news. I cried buckets of tears, knowing I’d never see Karen again. She was my bestie. My confidant and partner in crime. I taught her how to drive a car that had a stick shift. I loaned her lipstick on the school bus. She helped me with math when I didn’t understand it. We sang together. Stayed overnight with each other countless times. Cheered our team at school. She lived only a block away so it was convenient to be together. We shared the many things friends share and most of all, we shared our faith–and hope in eternal life.

 

There is hope.

 

There is a God of all comfort.

 

My husband Jim and I facilitate a grief group and we hear many stories of loss. We do our best to give comforting words to them, but the best thing we can do is direct them to the God of all Comfort for their relief from their terrible loss. Death is stark. It is final. And permanent. But those who put their trust in Jesus have hope of eternal life with Him in heaven. I like what this Psalm says about Hope.

 

Hope in the Lord;

for with the Lord there is

lovingkindness,

 and with Him

is abundant redemption

Psalm 130:7

 

 

Even though the loss was recent, I had the hope I’d see her again.

That Christmas so many years ago now, I remember having the hope I’d see Karen again. I missed her so much, but I reminded myself many times that I’d see her again. That is true with others in my life who have entered eternity. I know I’ll see them again.

 

 

It’s hard to be comforted sometimes….

 

If you’re grieving the loss of someone and it’s so fresh, it’s hard to be comforted with the hope you’ll see that person again. You just would like them to be here on earth–with you.

 

When I sign one of my books, I usually sign it with a verse. It’s one of my favorites. I hope it will give you strength today–especially if you’re facing a recent loss.

 

My prayer is you turn to the God of hope this Christmas season. That you place your trust in Jesus, the Christ Child, born to save us.

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  1. When my dear mother & best friend died just before Palm Sunday, 2012, I was inconsolable even though she would have turned 96 in May close to my birthday. My husband didn’t know what to do so called my brother, a Christian therapist who told him just to allow me to grieve & comfort me the best he could with memories & hugs. One year later, just after Christmas, my pastor daddy joined her in heaven. I thought the world should weep with me & felt like an orphan but knowing they were finally together again after loving one another for 71 years of marriage helped me through my grief.

    • Well said, Barbara! I still miss my mama and it was 6 years ago.

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