No Fear

Posted by on July 27, 2018 in Shirley's Blog | 9 comments

We’re coming up on an anniversary of our first date in about a month. It will be five years ago on September 4 we had our first date. We are working on a book about remarriage. Here’s an excerpt….

 

“I don’t understand why you aren’t afraid to marry again. Aren’t you afraid he’ll die?” a new widow asked me after reading my book.

 

I struggled to give an understandable answer. Sometimes it’s true, I am fearful. Mostly, though I am grateful. I’m grateful for the nearly five years God has gifted Jim and I with. I’m grateful every morning that I wake up with Jim by my side. I’m happy when he’s sitting beside me at church, singing with me during worship, glancing at me in understanding at a sermon point. He’s there on lazy Sunday afternoons when we change out of our church clothes into something cozy and comfortable and we veg out on a movie. As we watch our favorite pre-recorded Sunday shows. When we say good-night and drop off to sleep.

 

Do I want to give any of that up? Of course not. But would I want to protect myself from hurt by not allowing another one into my heart and home because he might leave me in death? No! I’m grateful for the time we’ve had and pray we have many more years.

 

Years ago, God gave me a verse that rings true now. At that time, I was in a marriage that was not working. I was fearful to say or do something to rock the boat and I came across this verse:

 

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)

 

At the time, it gave me courage to speak up and not be silent. Gradually things were better for numerous reasons: counseling, learning to communicate differently, and most of all, prayer. Change in me took place when I realized fear is not always the motivator for keeping silent. There’s a time to speak and a time to be silent. Those words gave courage for both times. 

 

I am comforted by verses throughout the Bible that tell me all good gifts are from above. The promise I will never leave you or forsake you flows throughout my favorite book, the Bible. I cling to those promises in the good and scary times of life.

 

 

We’ve been given five years to enjoy each other’s company. Last night we celebrated Jim’s birthday early and saw the stage production of Phantom of the Opera. We enjoyed dinner beforehand, watched the crowd before the show, and marveled at the voices and music. At intermission, we strolled outside in the balmy twilight. The last half of play was even better than the first.

 

As we drove home and discussed various parts of the play, I glanced out of the car window and saw the full moon–well tonight it will be. There it was. A perfect ending to a beautiful evening.

“The moon!” I exclaimed.

I conclude in the book – perhaps– with this:

We face life with this niggling of fear, but also know we are not alone—even when one of us leaves this earth. It’s a promise to us in both the New and Old testaments: Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.(Hebrews 13:6)

Enjoy the full moon tonight! It will be there in all its splendor. Forecast is clear skies

 

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9 Comments

  1. Chuck and I are very grateful for the almost five years God has given us. If the doctors are correct Chuck won’t live another year. This does make me sad and fearful, but mostly I trust God. And thank Him again for these wonderful five years.

  2. Thanks, Shirley, for your good words. Marv and I met 5 years ago today in Montana at the wedding of a mutual friend. I was working in Kentucky and he was living in Vancouver. Our meeting was set up by God! We were married 11 months later. We had both lost our spouses of many years to .cancer so we went into our marriage knowing what could happen again, but just grateful for every day that God gives us together. We both faced major health challenges in the first year of our marriage and are so glad for the support we were able to give each other. We are glad that we .can share life’s adventures at this later time if our life. GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME.

    • Thank you for your comments, Bunny. Yes indeed, God is good all the time!

  3. My son, Russ, came to visit me for a week. We did quite a bit of driving. He was amazed at the beautiful green fields. It was beautiful. But, alas, he had to go home. But Sarah and her two boys are coming soon as well as Emily. They are just staying a few days.

    It will be fun having them here. Boy, i hope you can read the print. It looks very pale to me. I am taking water exercises and I feel so much better. The dry ones make me hurt.

    Looking foward to seeing you too.

  4. Beautiful Shirley, I really enjoyed reading your blog this morning! Many more happy years together. Perfect scripture. Passing this on.
    God Bless,
    Molly
    Woodstock, Ct.

  5. We’ve been married 53 years & still are in love! Although it hasn’t always been easy because of childhood trauma’s and family suicide on my husband’s side. But we’re over comer’s, committed Christian’s who have been willing to allow the other go & seek the things that give us fulfillment & joy as well as find time to enjoy each other at the beach on Cape Cod & cabin at our Family Bible Camp. Raising three wonderful sons & enjoying time with our four grandchildren add to our fulfillment & peace as well as making time for our morning devotions together to seek God & His plans for our lives! International author of Listen to the Cry of the Child, counsellor & speaker with a God given passion & purpose to rise above the ashes!

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