Barbara, I was married to my first husband for 40 years before he entered Heaven’s gates. We both learned to accept our differences–but it took more than 20 years. Our final years were beautiful! In my second marriage of only 17 months, we experienced only the honeymoon period–it was so short. Both Jim and I in my third marriage are benefiting from the marriages before–although it isn’t perfect, it is as close as it can be.