We attended a couples retreat last weekend called Second Time Marriages. I thought the people who would attend would be like us–couples who’d been in a long-term marriage and were married again, learning how to blend their families. But the majority of the couples were from divorced marriages, learning how to blend their families. We heard this statement:
Divorce is a Loss Without a Funeral.
If you who are divorced, have you thought about it that way? Jim and I have talked often about his first marriage that ended in divorce. He told me the experience was fiercely worse than even the death of his second wife.
Divorce is a death–and a loss. Some of you are suffering the sting of divorce–a great loss. Others are suffering the sting of death. Both hurt like everything.
Tomorrow comes the song.
You can hope for tomorrow, when you will enjoy the song. Whether your loss is divorce. Death. Terminal illness. Chronic illness. Loss of a job. It hurts. Badly. Unendingly. But tomorrow….comes the song.
Take heart in that phrase. I like what John Greenleaf Whittier wrote:
I know not where his islands lift
Their fronded palms in air,
I only know I cannot drift
Beyond his love and care.
If you are going through a loss. Divorce. Death. Painful illness. Loss of a job. Remember, He is there.
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