Sometimes we come across phrases that irritate us. Perhaps the statement above is not what you want to hear. Your life at this point is very difficult. You are grieving loss and you don’t think you want to continue to live. 

God ordained my days….

I can remember having thoughts as I tossed in bed, that perhaps I didn’t need to live any longer. My children were raised. They were happy and healthy. Successful in their careers and busy with their own households. Why did I need to live any longer? I just wanted to be in heaven with my loved ones. Two husbands. A baby. My parents, grandparents. But I was reminded that God ordained my days and knew them before I ever met anyone. It was in Psalms 139:16

 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.

He collects your tears!

I was reminded God knew my distress and sadness and even collected my tears in a bottle! (Psalm 56:8)

    You keep track of all my sorrows.
    You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
    You have recorded each one in your book.

If God keeps track of all my sorrows, He knows where I am at this very moment.

We have our own history..

He has given us life and our history. (Psalm 118: 17).
 I will not die; instead, I will live.
I promise you if you are grieving, this pain will get better. God is aware of all of your sorrows. He ordained your days and your history continues until He calls you home. 
What’s your goal in going to heaven?
Now that I’m past that terrible grieving time, I realize my desires to be with past loved ones was not the right goal to go to heaven. Yes, I missed each of them terribly, especially my lifetime mates. But more than seeing them someday–they won’t even be my husbands in heaven–for there is no marriage in heaven. What I truly look forward to is to see is my loving Savior Jesus! The One who collects my tears in a bottle. The One who numbered my days on earth. The One who loved me so much, He died for me–and then raised himself from the dead! No other god has done that. Only Jesus, who is God. 
Ask God to help you live.
If you are grieving something today–it may be death–yet it can be most anything in life, ask God to help you in your grief. Ask Him to give you a purpose in living. Ask Him to relieve your sadness, if only for a few hours. Eventually, you will not grieve as much because if we believe in Jesus for our salvation, He has given us the Holy Spirit who is with you right now! Take heart. Ask God to help you live. Until you meet Him in heaven where there will be no tears or sorrow. 

Another promise…